A Homemaker’s Diary

I think there are many pro and cons when you are a homemaker in the housing area where most of the neighbors’ wives go out to work, leaving you with their bibik around.

First, the neighbors might have this impression that you are not educated enough, since you are not working.

Second, sometimes even the bibik around will think that you are a bibik as well since you don’t have time to put on make up and dress nicely like all other “ibu-ibu”…heh!

But the pro will be, you’ll get to know all the internal affairs about other bibik and their “ibu ” and “bapak” if you manage to strike a camaraderie with them..heh! Of course I’m still not sure how much I can trust their words since you know, people might lie and make up stories to save their ass..thus the reason why I don’t feel like hiring a bibik..although there are moments that I feel kan bagus kalau ada maid, boleh suruh buat kerja..

Seeing and hearing things make me feel grateful that I have what I have now. I don’t think I could survive another human being making me annoyed and frustrated, you know how I can’t stand slow people, apatah lagi to have them living under my roof…isk isk..huhu!

Well, you can’t really blame them if you realized the facts that these bibik are all less educated than you, coming from poor background with lack of facilities, never use any weird kitchen appliances, yet you expect them to come equipped with all kind of homemaking skills to run your home as perfectly as you thought you could do.

I think if I ever need outside help, I will rather take the part time basis, just to clean up here and there occasionally. I don’t think Hubby will like a maid cooking his dinner, or wash his boxers..haha! And help raising our son, definitely no-no!

It’s kind of a popular question..if you are not married, people will ask when will you get married, once you are married, they will ask are you pregnant yet? and once you popped out your first child, they will ask when are you going to have the second one, if it’s a boy, they will ask don’t you want to have a girl?…sigh!

I don’t know about other women, but personally I feel really offended and demeaning when a man dictates how many kids he wants…hello?? no uterus, no demand, OK!

Do you know that it’s hard to be pregnant – if you don’t have morning sickness, then you are really a lucky woman, but if you do, then you know how it feels to puke all day long, whatever you eat and drink, come out through the mouth, right from your stomach once again makes you feel tired (some even vomit blood because the esophagus get irritated by too much vomiting), you are feeling really sick, your body are in silent pain – all the major organs are working too hard, all the joints stretch to accommodate the extra weight causing pelvis pain, backache, the heart is pumping more as if you are climbing a mountain, you have nausea, and you put up with all these just because you want to bear your hubby’s son or daughter..

I think if God grant a man a capability of conceiving and giving birth, the entire human population will soon diminish.

And not to mention the agony of childbirth, the pain during contraction, the pushing out process, even with petadine, you will still feel the pain. I just can’t imagine how women in the old age stand childbirth without any drugs, no wonder some even die while giving birth..huhu!

It’s painful to the extent that when the gynae is doing the episiotomy, snipping your perineum, you can hear her scissors snipping but you don’t feel the pain or rather can’t differentiate the pain because the contraction pain was more powerful..(as Hubby said he saw the blood gushing out from the snipping wound, luckily he didn’t faint! heh!)

Note: Episiotomy is a procedure where the skin between the vagina and the anus is cut. (This area is called the the perineum.)

During childbirth, the area called the perineum is often cut to facilitate delivery (A). First, a local anesthetic may be given (B). The perineum is cut on an angle with scissors (C). After delivery, the layers of muscle and skin are repaired (D and E). (Illustration by GGS Inc.)

And the sore that comes after the episiotomy…huhu…and yet a man dare to ask for sex after 30 days (I heard stories about some men who do it even during his wife’s confinement period – 20 days..what a beast! – as if he can’t think of anything else but sex, and the timid wife gave in painfully because she feels that it’s her tanggungjawab, takut nanti laki cari pompuan lain, bullshit!) Imagine if someone slash your penis and during the healing time someone rape you..

And the burden doesn’t stop there, some women battle with postpartum depression, fighting the weight gain problem (bini dah gemuk lepas beranak, komplen pulak tu), and the tiring experience of raising a child..oh, please don’t preach to me about all the pahala of being a mom, try for once taking over a little bit of her responsibility and you’ll know why God give such big appraisal for the job..

For all the men who simply “do it” and somehow proud of impregnating their wives every year (konon jantan habis la tu), I am not sure whether your wives do it because she really love children, or she terpaksa dalam rela, or she has to put up with all of these susah payah because she wants to be isteri yang taat, giving in to your demand to have how many children in how many years…as a woman, I pity her!

To all men (who happen to read this), I don’t mean to create any controversial issue here, but if you could at least sit back and ponder through, I hope you could appreciate your wife even more for all that she has done for you..

I’m not sure how soon I can be back into full operation, but currently I’m doing some hantaran stuffs for a friend for a July event. We decided to devote this one room for my SOHO space, means that this is where my craft studio will be from now on until I could find a shop lot for the business.

All of the craft stuffs were packed in the boxes, even the shelves and the display cabinet have been placed in the room.

The old air cond which has been installed in the previous master bedroom is now the SOHO air cond. There is also a ceiling fan just in case I need some breezy air (I don’t like opening the windows especially when I am working on a certain project!)

I’m not sure when will I have the time to sort and arrange all the craft materials, although some of them will stay in the boxes until the time I need them for coming project…sigh!

It’s that time of the year again, where students who are eligible to further their studies enroll to college and university. My nephew who are into IT Security has been crossing his fingers hoping that this time he will get a place in any local college to further his studies to undergraduate.

I wonder what it will be like when my son grows up and the teacher at his school asks what he wants to be..hehe! Will he want to be a Certified Ethical Hacker?

Don’t be surprised since these bunch of geeks actually earn a lot. Survey done in 2007 shows that the top 50 percent of these computer scientists earned between $97,970 and $123,900.

What is ethical hacker actually?

They are actually computer scientist that works as a security specialist, forensic investigator, or network defense architect for corporations, the government, and law enforcement agencies to help prevent hacking or to track down perpetrators.

You might have some hacking skills (developed on your own), added that with a bachelor’s degree in computer science or information technology, plus an additional online college training in network security and there you are, able to demand a higher salary as your skills are indispensable to the company..heh!

So if you feel that you need the certification to boost your salary, check out the next available iClass conducted by EC-Council to discover all the benefits of EC Council certification without the added expense of travel. Among the area of interests are:

* Security Fundamentals
* Ethical Hacking
* Penetration Testing
* Computer Forensics
* Disaster Recovery
* Secure Coding