A Homemaker’s Diary

In a blink it’s already November 2020.

Life is tough in 2020, right? With the whole world affected by the Covid19 pandemic. Nobody expect this year to be like that.

We planned so many things but in the end we have to stay home for most of the months. But I am still happy that despite that we still have money to spend, food to eat and family to love and get annoyed with..haha!

My resolution for 2021 is to continue blogging. I know people no longer write so much in blog these days. They have other social media platform to choose from. But since I have been blogging since 2005, it’s sad to see this blog been abandoned for a year now.

So stick with me in this journey, I’ll try my best to share as much interesting tidbit of life as possible with you readers.

Lately there’s a lot of nice rings from China sold on eBay. Being an avid eBay bidder, I’ve been trying my luck to get a nice one below the price of USD1. The shipping worldwide is usually free.

The above ring I got with the price of USD0.44. This one is in size 7. The first few rings that I managed to bid were in bigger size as I was not sure what is my ring size.

The chart above shows the measurement for the ring size. This is for US ring size.

I have received the one in the picture above and it is so nice, like the antique type you saw in historical drama. However it is size 9 and definitely too big for me to wear. I am still waiting for a few more designs which I managed to win.

A few months ago I started collecting washi tape after seeing how pretty it adorned cards and letters sent by my penpal. I bought most of my washi tape collection through bidding on eBay. First I compared the price on eBay with the price that local seller offers and when the bidding price is much lower than the local price, then only I will proceed to bid.

So far I have about 30 washi tapes with different size – 5mm, 7mm and 15mm. I hope to use them on the travel journal as well which is on its way from China. I will share the outcome of my washi tape art later 🙂

This year marks the 11th year that I’ve been a homemaker. There were few years previously that I tried to be a WAHM, but for the past 2 years I have been a stay-at-home mom entirely.

There are times that I wonder whether all the years spent as a stay-at-home mom really makes a difference. I wouldn’t know because there’s no other option for me. My son is autistic and has never spend a day in daycare. The only other person ever to take care of him is my husband. We basically have no extended family support. I have never let my son stays overnight with any other family member, since they never offer to babysit him.

When women my age or younger said they would like to try being a work-at-home mom or stay-at-home mom, my unsolicited advice for them would be that they have to be tough mentally and emotionally.

Most women who used to have their own money from working a 9-5 job will think that the main obstacle being a SAHM would be the lost of income. Yes, that’s true. But if you have a supportive spouse who is not stingy, you wouldn’t need all the money you used to earn, to survive basic life. There will be sacrifice on your side, I admit that, like not being able to splurge on branded stuffs, buy impulsively, things like that. But for the past decade that I’ve met people who decided to become SAHM, none of them ever been destitute on the street.

The main problem with being a SAHM is how happy you could be at home, juggling life with kids and house chores, mundane routine that at the end of the day seems like you are doing nothing all day. At one point, you will start asking yourself whether you are wasting the talent and education you got, by being a homemaker.

So for those who would like to choose this path of life after years of being a career women and mothers, I would say give it a try. The first 6 months would be the hardest phase to get through but eventually if you are meant to be a SAHM, you will find the peace in such vocation.

I love April.