It’s almost 3 years now that I am being a stay-at-home-mom. What it’s like, you ask? On most days, it’s awful, awful, awful and then some wonderful moment happens, then it’s awful, awful awful again, and then some wonderful moment happens again..(I’m quoting The Back Up Plan movie here..heh!)
But that’s the truth.
I am a staunch supporter for mothers to stay at home and carry their ultimate obligation as a mom, yes to raise your child, clean their poop at 3 a.m, feed them what you cook at whatever hour they feel hungry, not just to come home from office and cuddle your clean, newly bathed precious child and then once she/he poops, you pass to the maid to clean him/her up..that’s just not fair! That’s what fathers in the old days do while moms slave in the kitchen day in and day out. Now moms have the choice to be like dads as well because women these days are modern and have career.
Mothers who are thinking of quitting their job to stay home to raise their own children need to be brave. They always wonder what it’s like being home all day. It’s very lonely and you will have no time for yourself. If you are working, you will have lunch hour, tea break and even toilet break. But you won’t have all that once you are at home alone with your child.
And then come the issue of money. Yes, you will feel the pinch of not having your own salary, greatly. If you used to have like RM2k-3k per month, now you will be lucky if you could have RM200. Of course if you are a tai-tai, money will not be an issue, but then again, tai tai won’t have to clean their child’s poop, they have amah and servants to do all that, so it defeats the purpose of you wanting to be a stay-at-home-mom in the first place.
My advice is, you got to have a strong heart if you want to be a SAHM. You have to sacrifice a lot and be burdened with so many ugly and hurtful remarks especially if your immediate family members are not supportive of your decision. It’s like having a post partum depression all your life to the extent you will no longer care of the pain they cause you.
But the rewards, only Allah S.W.T will pay in justice in later life.
SAHM memang menduga kesabaran. saya baca blog Farah dri blogspot dulu. Bermakna dari bujang sampai beranak tapi belum ‘pinak’ lagi.
I’s so true..can I share this on my FB..salam ukhuwah dari saya
azrinna, ye ke baca sejak dulu?..uihh rasa malu plak saya..hehe..
ummi izah, salam ukhuwah juga dari saya..err nak share ke?..ala tak de isi pon, setakat share perasaan je..
Hi, interesting posting.
Being a full time mom is one of the highest salaried jobs in any field, since the payment is pure love.
And one good mother is worth a hundred teachers.
You have a nice day, and keep a song in your heart.
Best regards.
Lee.
he he..nak share kat fb status saya jer
ya saya setuju….byk cabaran terutama berperang dgn kehendak sendiri dan kepentingan keluarga….mcm2 lah tp dgn rasa kekurangan yg ada sbnrnya ada perkara2 yg Allah SWT bantu ringankn beban kita….
Saya baca blog Farah sejak Farah jadikan rumah Farah untuk kelas bunga stokin dulu. masa tu Farah lum ada baby.
Thanks Azrinna..lama tu sejak 2006 kan.. 🙂
i agree being a sahm was the toughest decision i’ve made, and it is indeed a lonely and hard path. took me a while to come to terms with my decision, but alhmdulillah, i’m perfectly comfortable with it now. i have to admit though that i’m half-half. every bit the sahm indeed (bcoz i handle my kids entirely by myself, never allowing the maid to handle them), but a bit of a tai-tai on the other hand (i dont do the tough scrubbing chores, and i do earn passive income), i still say that it is not an easy job which takes alot of emotional and physical sacrifices. and cause alot of emotional and physical exhaustion too!